We got lost in translation…

In recent times, our difficulty communicating is apparent, to speak with those around us, in a daily life where parallel monologues become and dialogue, a constructive dialogue disappears.
Failure to communicate, however, is only one of the consequences of non-communication. Another result is that needs are not met, perhaps even vital at times, since we claim others to guess what we need and when. Besides, misunderstandings may arise because those around us have learned to expect some behavior or response from us and respond to it without even manifesting it (“And I know you would say/do this now,” “But I would not say/do such a thing,” etc.). Finally, it is common that, as a result, communication stops completely, and two people in the same house end up living like two “strangers.”
Perhaps there is a fear of the other person’s reaction to what we say or ask for, or the multiple fights have brought a burnout that we no longer have the desire for another debate to lead to deadlock, disagreement, or quarrel. Thus, we accumulate words, wants, needs, drown them until, at some point, the “explosion” comes with much worse consequences for the relationship.
Many times the obvious seems the most difficult. Most of the time, all we need to do is say what bothers us, what we need, what we want from each other, but at the same time free ourselves from the need/ requiring the other person to fulfill what we ask of him. But their announcement alone is enough to set a new course for the relationship.
We can observe young children who, whatever they want, will ask directly without thinking about how others will take it or how they will say it more diplomatically to get the result they want: “I want to leave,” “I don’t like food,” “I want a cookie.”
So the next time we find it difficult to understand each other, let us ask ourselves whether we speak clearly and what our interlocutor understands from what we say. Let us simply try to say things by name without distractions, diplomatic hints, and rants. And maybe the answer we’re going to hear is, “Why didn’t you say that for so long?”